Men always want to suck things up, which is one main factor in why they hurt more than women following breakups.
No one ever feels fairly treated when a relationship ends. When the usual feeling of contentment is abruptly taken away from them due to a breakup, men and women both hurt. The grieving process frequently takes place even when the breakup was anticipated.
According to a British study, men experience greater long-lasting pain following breakups than women do. This immediately begs the question, "Why is this the case?" Men often seem to move on from breakups faster and with less sorrow, so how and why do they seem to be hurting more?
Guys struggle more after a breakup than women do, according to a 2017 article that appeared on The Independent Ireland, because "emotionally, [men] typically find themselves in more difficult situations."
react badly to major life upheavals. Moreover, [men’s] methods for dealing with changed circumstances are not always helpful."
This claim is supported by a 2015 Men's Health survey. One-third of respondents felt the jilted partner would be better off if he pretended not to care about the breakup, according to survey researchers, while going to the pub was chosen as the greatest approach to "get over" a split.
One of the main causes of suffering in men is their refusal to accept the truth of what has transpired.
"Men grew up with the'men don't cry' attitude, and while men may deal with things differently, that doesn't mean they don't feel the same pain and hurt as women," says Elaine Hanlon, a Dublin-based counsellor and psychotherapist. "For generations, men have learned to suppress their pain and hurt in order to 'be a man,' which leaves little room for vulnerability."
Women, on the other hand, are more likely to find a shoulder to cry on and let it all out.
"Women are often less reliant on their significant other for emotional support - they typically have a larger circle of friends and will confide in family in ways that most men would not." Hanlon explains.
That explains why they come to terms with reality and find the true strength to truly close a chapter and move on to the next.
Another reason why women do not suffer as much as men after a breakup is that they break up more frequently than men.
"Studies show that today, more women than men initiate marriage breakups," Hanlon adds.
This means that women will have more time to process the upcoming pain. They begin to plan for the consequences of separating from a partner early on. When they finish that phase, the man may only be starting his.
As a result, it is critical for men to begin dealing with breakups in more expressive, healthier ways, as opposed to the'suck-it-all-up' technique that has been used for a long time. To deal with a breakup in a healthy manner,
